Work With Me

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Leading under challenge. You lead well until your judgment is questioned in front of others. Then you defend, over-explain or go quiet. We look at what that moment is protecting.

The decision you keep postponing. You know what it requires, and information is not the issue. We look at what you are bracing for.

Recognition and the fear of failing. The need to be seen as capable, or the dread of being seen otherwise, quietly shapes choices you would make differently without it.

The same conflict, again. You want a different relationship with a partner, a colleague or a parent, and you keep taking part in the same exchange.

Success that does not satisfy. You built what you set out to build, and the satisfaction does not arrive, or leaves within days.

Wanting more of your life. Some people arrive with no problem to solve, only a sense that they are meeting their work, their relationships and their own possibilities at a distance. That is a legitimate place to begin.

We begin with something real: a recent situation, specific, that still carries some charge. 

We look at what actually happened, what it meant to you, and where that meaning came from. 

Much of this is conversation. 

Some of it is exercises, used when they help you see something as it happens rather than discuss it afterward.

The aim is not a better explanation of yourself. You probably already have several. 

It is recognizing the pattern as it starts, because that is when something else becomes possible.

It works with the moment, not only the history. Understanding where a reaction comes from matters, and it rarely stops the reaction while it is happening. We work on seeing it as it begins.

It does not ask you to fix, suppress or reframe anything. You will not be asked to feel differently, to replace a thought with a better one, or to revisit the past until it changes. A memory can be accepted as part of your history without continuing to live through the identity that formed around it.

It comes from long observation, not a formula. The approach developed over more than thirty years of working with individuals, leaders and groups, and it is set out in a book and a body of essays and papers.

I have led leadership trainings and directed a leadership program, and I am open to conversations with organizations about workshops, leadership development, and group programs.

If you are considering this, tell me about your group and what you are trying to do.

"I used to feel frustrated when patients wouldn’t take my advice or would fall back into harmful behaviors. 

This training helped me realize that I was reacting based on my own assumptions rather than seeing their struggles as they were. 

Now, I ask different questions. I guide them to their own clarity rather than trying to ‘fix’ them. 

The results have been incredible—patients feel more empowered, and I feel less frustrated."

— James P., Social Worker

“From business decision-making to innovation, I have learned to draw well-thought-out conclusions about why strategies succeed or fail.

Alberto's impact extends beyond our coaching sessions and continues to influence how I approach both my personal and professional life.”

Tony Toledo

Director of Marketing
TNT Agency

Write to me and tell me what you'd like to explore. We can have a conversation and see what possibilities might open up for you. 

There is nothing to prepare, and no expectation that you already understand the work.